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"Surfing in the Moment"
ON THE SCHMOOZE, WITH ROBBIE SAMUELS
A FLEXIBLE, COLLABORATIVE MODEL OF LEADERSHIP
"I think of leadership as not only leading yourself but having a vision where you're inviting other people to be on that journey with you. And you're allowing them to define themselves and their participation in that journey in a way that brings them to life, that allows them to expand and participate and be creative and inventive. This for me is leadership. It's much more of a collective and collaborative process."
"We can't underestimate the impact we have on the people around us."
BELIEVING IN OTHERS HELPS THEM BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES
"I really looked up to my uncle who I lost during the pandemic. He was a remarkable man. He was successful early on. He went to Harvard Business School, did that whole track of success, founded a company, sold the company and was completely burned out on the American rat race. So he took a trip around the world - and this was in the 70s - and when he got to Fiji he didn't want to leave. So he bought an island there, which eventually became the location for the filming of the movie, the Blue Lagoon with Brooke Shields. He was really my maverick, crazy uncle, and he inspired me, inspired me to grab life and go for it. He always believed in me, always. He always had wonderful things to say. Things like, 'You're the smartest person in our family.' Do you know what it means when someone believes in you that way? You think, oh, I can believe that about myself too - because someone I admire believes that about me. And so we can't underestimate the impact we have on the people around us - our peers, our colleagues and people who are younger than us who are looking to us as mentors."
NEW CONCEPTS NEED NEW LANGUAGE
"The greatest challenge in sharing Quantum Surfing was finding the right words, to describe what I want to convey. Our language comes from our life view, our world perspective. And the language we speak carries with it cultural beliefs. And so in my situation, sharing a way of being, a way of understanding the world and finding the language to actually share it effectively. That probably took me more time than not.
I can tell you where I've landed in this moment. I call this method, this framework that I share, Quantum Surfing. When we are trained by our culture to be successful, we are being trained using a method. And we know very well the mechanics of that method - you apply yourself, you set your goals and your objectives, you marshal resources, and so forth. That's a method. But there are other methods. You know, we just rely on that method because we know it so well. And we know that if we apply ourselves and work hard that it is going to pay off. So we persist in that method. I call that method paddling, because you're only using your own energy.
But what I've been playing with over the last decade is to wonder, Do you have to do it that way? Like, maybe there's a more fun and fascinating and speedier way to do things. And that's what I call surfing. You're tapping into energy. When you show up in a way that inspires other people that makes them feel happy, you impact the people around you. That's energy and in our paddling model of getting from A to B, we don't even begin to contemplate those types of ideas. This would be a foundational example in the ideas of Quantum Surfing."
"Seek the commonalities and decipher the universal truth that supports the experiences."
DECIPHERING SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCES CAN REVEAL QUANTUM TRUTHS
"For me, there have been along the way, significant and profound spiritual experiences. Because I had those experiences, I started to seek an explanation. Part of our cultural beliefs is that everything is rational and logical. So when people share unusual, otherworldly experiences, we assume they must be imagining or even hallucinating. Instead, I decided to take the perspective that if someone is telling me they're having an experience, then I'm going to believe it. And then I'm going to try to understand what could be an explanation for their experience. This would be the way a quantum physicist works. You seek the commonalities and decipher the universal truth that supports the experiences. And so you start to understand a world of quantum reality, and you realize your energy is also part of that."
LET'S TOAST TO A SPARKLING FUTURE, THAT WE CREATE TOGETHER
"Looking forward, I'm excited to surf with more people. It's fun. I am so passionate about people unleashing their genius. I don't want them to be held back. It's so beautiful to be able to fully express who you are. And to bring that to the world. And our word needs everyone to be in their genius. To make our place, our world, our environment sparkle. To me, what would be most rewarding would be to be giddily surfing, which in my world means creating epic-ly, with people who are also laughing in the waves."
"Discovering Personal Change and Authentic Self Expression"
James has a thriving business helping entrepreneurs scale their businesses. He's also an avid surfer. We talked about pandemic lockdown in Fiji and Quantum Surfing. Tune in to hear about uncanny coincidences and becoming predictably lucky. About adopting lucky behaviors to amplify business outcomes. And how viewing yourself as a hero on a journey gifts you resilience. A special thanks to quantum surfer Jesse Desjardins who introduced me to James.
FOR PERSPECTIVE AND RESILIENCE, IMAGINE YOURSELF AS THE HERO IN YOUR STORY
"We don't have any sort of cultural narratives or cultural beliefs that incorporate what's happening in the quantum field."
TO DECIPHER HOW QUANTUM REALITY WORKS, BE PLAYFUL AND CHILDLIKE
IF YOU'RE MISSING GOALS, MAYBE THERE'S A BIGGER PICTURE UNFOLDING
"Lucky outcomes are only happening once we start practicing the lucky behaviors."
PRACTICE LUCKY BEHAVIORS AND YOU GET LUCKY OUTCOMES
INTUITION IS A LOST AND POWERFUL SENSE
“How to Accelerate Success through Quantum Surfing”
I had the pleasure of sharing tenets of my Quantum Surfing courses with Australian Jurgen Strauss, host of the InnovaBuzz podcast. Jurgen helps his audience build visibility, professional authority and deep connection with their dream clients. Thank you for having me, Jurgen!
- Luck is the outcome of lucky behaviours.
- Our brain makes sense of its environment. It decodes all signals that it collects from the environment based on our beliefs. Therefore, what you believe to be true is true.
- Learn not to process everything through your brain. It's not what you think but what you feel. Your intuition is what allows you to tap into the natural rhythm and timing that oftentimes go completely unnoticed.
- Come home to yourself. Come home to a culture that innately nurtures happiness, to a place where you are fully accepted, and where there is unconditional love that allows you to just be yourself and step into your full potential.
- Language shapes how we think. It's not just a way to communicate. Language carries an entire set of cultures and beliefs.
- Be authentically YOU. Don't shy away from that and stop comparing yourself to others. Step into your own beauty and magic, and trust that your uniqueness is also your genius.
"Quantum Surfing in Fiji with Monica Laurence"
I so enjoyed my conversation with Sarah Fefjar, host of Greenroom Central. Sarah helps online business owners leverage virtual, hybrid, and in-person events to reach more dream clients, build loyalty, and make easier high-ticket sales. And she’s a total delight. Thank you, Sarah!
FREEDOM TO BE YOU
"My favorite moments at Tavola are when the music comes on and I flip into some ridiculous dance moves that you'd never pull out because you would be self conscious, but here, you can't help but dance. You've arrived in a place where you get to be truly and wholly who you are. You're unrestrained. You're authentically you. And this is why I call Tavola a home - because you get to be who you are, honored for who you are, and more than that, loved for who you are. There aren't many spaces where we feel that way. When guests at Tavola slip into authentic self expression and delight in the freedom of the moment, that makes me happiest."
"In fact, playfulness and connection can be the fastest ways to break through to an entirely new trajectory."
PLAYFULNESS ACCELERATES CREATIVE BREAKTHROUGHS
"In our custom designed retreats at Tavola, I sprinkle in a lot of playfulness. People always ask me, "Will we be journaling? Meditating? Yoga? Where's my structure?" We can do all those things. That's totally fine. But what's interesting and what I've come to understand is that playing coconut bocce ball is magic. It's not structured, especially because coconuts roll in all different directions! But it's funny, and it's playful, and it's connecting you to the people who are around you. And through the laughter that you're sharing, you're coming to know them in a way that is deeper. And you're reflecting that back into yourself. You're coming alive in a way that is more free. So this emphasis on playfulness is actually something I incorporate into the retreats. I know from a Western standpoint that sounds like we're not doing something, right? That we're not achieving an objective. But in fact, playfulness and connection can be the fastest ways to break through to an entirely new trajectory. Because that joy, that high energy, nourishes each and every one of us."
GETTING OFF THE GRID RESTORES AND SPARKS GENIUS
"What I discovered, Sarah, is that mixing the energies of Fiji with the driving, focused ways of Silicon Valley, was making me more creative. It was making me more open. It was giving me a broader perspective on what was possible. And it was taking me to a place that gave me joy. That made me happy. Everything started firing on all cylinders, if you will, as a result of mixing the two energies. So it was for that reason that I actually bought Tavola Fiji, because I wanted to share this energetic alchemy with other entrepreneurs."
"When you shift those fundamentals, then you come to a place of peace."
NATURE LIFTS YOUR MOOD, SHIFTS HOW YOU BREATHE AND GIFTS INSIGHT
"Here in Fiji, I'm literally sitting in the jungle. You can hear the roosters and the birds, and then there's the companionship of the wind. Which is fascinating. Here, the wind is always present with me. Even when I'm indoors, the wind is coming through the louvers. There's no separation between me and the wind. And yet there's a distinct separation when you're in any sort of environment where the buildings are reinforced and have climate control. Here you're integrated with nature, and that integration affects how you feel and even how you breathe. When you shift those fundamentals, then you come to a place of peace and well being that allows you to have new insights and creativity. The nature here is so pervasive that you can't shut it out the way we're accustomed to shutting it out in our modern world."
CULTIVATE PERSEVERANCE BY GAMIFYING THE MUNDANE
"I think there's so many opportunities for us in life to make things that need to be done into a game. I remember when some of my early jobs were kind of boring. My mother would say, "Monica, make it a game." Transforming an irritant into a game is a way of navigating through tasks that allows you to be in a more creative and joyful energy. A really well designed, playful orientation can get you to an end goal that you never would have reached otherwise."
"Expanding Your Time"
GROWTH MINDSET CONVERSATIONS WITH MANBIR KAUR
I joined Manbir Kaur on her Growth Mindset podcast for corporate leaders. Manbir and I are members of Dorie Clark’s Recognized Expert Group. The most awesome people are in that group, and I’ve loved getting to know Manbir. I’m excited she has her podcast underway so successfully! Thank you, Manbir!
GROWTH MINDSET IS NEVER GIVING UP ON YOUR DREAMS
“For me, growth mindset is never giving up on your dreams. I think that as children, we dream effortlessly. And then as we grow up, we start to become practical, pragmatic. We start to say, ‘Oh, that would be too difficult. Oh, I'm too old.’ We have all these reasons that we can't do things and sometimes we even stop dreaming at all. For me, growth mindset is about allowing yourself to dream. And as an entrepreneur, I like to make those dreams come true. So that's really one of the beliefs and desires that led me into Quantum Surfing. I was looking for more tools to make more dreams come true.”
"It's a creation method for people who are passionate about living life."
QUANTUM SURFING IS AN ACCELERATED WAY TO CREATE
“Quantum Surfing is actually a growth mindset. And it's a creation method for entrepreneurs, innovators, global visionaries - people who are passionate about living life. It's an accelerated way to create, which is a different perspective than the conventional norms we are taught in our best institutions, in all of our corporations. And we, in mastering those conventional norms of planning and resource allocation, whatnot, we've really become what I would call expert paddlers. But what I've been experimenting with over the last 10 years is a different way of creating - a way that uses energy. And that's what I call Quantum Surfing.”
INTUITION IS A LOST SENSE
“Intuition is a sense that we have, but we're never trained to use it. We're definitely trained in our rational thinking, in our intellect. But we don't come to trust our intuition because we don't have enough experience with it. And what's interesting to me about intuition as well is that we don't have language around it. So we have a lot of language around hearing, which is a sense, or seeing, which is a sense, or even tasting or smelling. We have a lot of language around that. But we don't have language around intuition and it's quite a broad spectrum.
There's a form of intuition that I share that I call sense decisioning. It’s a fantastic way to literally expand time, to save time, to get something done without having to focus on it. By asking a feeling-oriented question, we can tap into a rhythm of right timing. Sense decisioning is a type of intuition that we have access to, and we don’t even know it.”
"By choosing to be happy, we are giving ourselves the gift of seeing the unexpected."
WHY THE RADICAL CHOICE OF BEING HAPPY CREATES OUTSTANDING RESULTS
"In the first Quantum Surfing course I share how to be lucky. What the research shows is that luck is learned. Luck is the outcome of behavior patterns. And that specifically those behaviors are curiosity and openness, resilience, positive expectations, intuition. And I add playfulness. Because having experimented with this for a long time, I know that that's kind of the accelerator, the playfulness.
So what can you do right now? A first thing that you can do - and some of these things are going to sound small, but consistently done they produce completely different results. One is to make the choice to be happy. It's truly a radical choice to make a choice to be joyful. The reason this is so important is because when you're in that feeling for yourself, that's what you lead with. Right? So it is an accelerator. That is one of the easiest things that you can do.
In our environment, we have doubts, we have fears, we feel anxious. What’s happening for us when we’re in that energy, and the science shows this, is that we can’t notice the unexpected. By choosing to be happy, by showing up in a playful energy, by just letting loose a little bit, you know, by injecting some laughter, that enables us to just drop a few layers of fear, stress and anxiety. When we do that for ourselves - and this is why it's such a radical choice - we are giving ourselves the gift of seeing the unexpected. And when we are able to see more of what's truly happening, then when we start to realize that there are these serendipities, these coincidences, occurring all the time. We're not noticing them because we're kind of shrouded by being overly focused, by the anxiety. So any time you can choose to be playful is going to put you in a great position for fantastic outcomes in shorter periods of time."
“Luck, Intention and Quantum Surfing”
MIDLIFE MASTERY PODCAST WITH HOST BROC EDWARDS
This conversation about Quantum Surfing with Broc Edwards, Host of the Midlife Mastery podcast, was one of my first. I love Broc’s mission - to inspire people to truly live their middle years. Midlife is phenomenal. We have all the wisdom of our adult selves. And we have childlike qualities that we left behind, and can now reclaim, to create in ways that we never were capable of creating before. It's a beautiful, beautiful time in life. Thank you, Broc!
“Lucky people are more open as they are experiencing their environment. They’re simply open to what's there. Whereas unlucky people are overly focused on the task at hand and are constraining themselves to really be precise.”
“We tend to think of intuition as a gut call, which is almost like the beginning aspect of intuition. But gut calls are more akin to experiential reliance. And if you've seen patterns before, you're able to make a gut call based on those patterns, whereas intuition can be used by anyone.”
“What I'm sharing with you are not our cultural beliefs. It's not what we're taught. There is this way of showing up more joyfully and more in resonance with the excitement and the beauty of the quantum waves. Surfing is fun.”
“There are a number of different obstacles that we have in our typical cultural beliefs that keep us from surfing. One is overthinking. In our culture, we have placed a very very high reliance on analysis, being analytical, logical, rational. We've mastered that and it's fantastic but it's not all there is.”
"You're simply allowing all of the yummy delicious paths or waves to come your way."
A PASSIONATE INTENTION YIELDS MANY PATHS
“There are many rights. There are many directions you can take that get you to your end destination. And the key is really allowing yourself to dream. To dream about what's possible for you. What do you love? What are you drawn to? What excites you? And to start from that place of a blank canvas and just be present with that. You know as children, we played all the time. As children, we would daydream. As children we would imagine what we wanted to be in life. And somewhere along the line, we stopped doing that. We started becoming more goal oriented, more purposeful. Which is a powerful way of being.
But there's a beauty that I would say is aligned with each person. And to realize the beauty, your particular beauty of life, is to allow yourself to dream as to what's possible for you. Once you have that vision, it becomes an intention. But then the patterns start to appear. So you don't need to plan the path so much. You need to have a sense of what the milestones are. But the idea of Quantum Surfing is that you're simply allowing all of the yummy delicious paths or waves to come your way. And you have it now in the context of that vision. They're not goals. They’re something that you're inexplicably drawn to. Something that you're passionate about. Something that you can't wait to make happen. Simply for the joy of it being fun, and exhilarating and exciting. And you might do it alone, or you might do it with other people. This is a way of living that is really juicy. Starting with the dreaming starts to free us from having to direct the navigation. And then we know that lots of different paths are going to get to that destination.”
QUANTUM SURFING IS A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT WAY OF BEING
“A course participant shared with me, ‘Monica, you can't imagine the difference. It's like, there was life pre quantum surfing and now life after quantum surfing. I'm still trying to get my head around what it was that I learned per se, but what I do know is that the way that I approach life, the way that I think about my opportunities, the way that I craft what's happening for me, is completely different. And when other people show up in my life and they tell me what's possible or what's not possible, my reaction is, well, that's what you believe. People hold themselves in places that are limiting, but they're also less joyous. There's an energy that happens when you're around people who are happy, who are playful. This is something to tap into.’ Each person coming through the course has had different outcomes, but without fail, every single one has said it's completely transformative. It's a completely different perspective on how you can surf with life rather than push yourself through it.”
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